DIVORCE COPING TIPS

TIP # 1–DON’T LACK CONSISTENCY IN YOUR WORK AND SOCIAL LIFE

Separating from your spouse is generally a heavy emotional loss, even when it is for reasons appearing to be more of a mandatory nature than elective. There are usually a strong personal, emotional and psychological ties due to the history and time spent. Closing that chapter in your life and opening another is not always easy. This idea is time tested and proven to work to help recover and move on from your loss: DON’T LACK CONSISTENCY IN YOUR WORK AND SOCIAL LIFE. While going through the emotional blender of this transition, you may forget what a good person you are. This can cause some depression and loss of self-esteem. But if you “suit up and show up” every day at work, your discipline of staying on schedule, staying on track, being the train that is on time all the time, and never jumping the track, you will keep your sanity. To always have in your mind that great phrase, “fake it until you make it,” you will get through this. Besides, throwing yourself into your work will be a great way to get through this transition. You probably have children and to deal with their emotional needs you should make them your number 1 priority, yes, even ahead of any new love interest. This shows the world and yourself you are handling this difficult time in a healthy way. Plus, a little therapy and a few good books never hurt.

Pay some money each month toward child and/or spousal support. Even if it is not the full court ordered or agreed amount, even if it is $20.00 or $50.00 it is showing the world, and yourself, you can be relied upon. Be on time for visitations, no matter what; show your children you can be counted on. You know you always are in “their corner” but show them, as their little minds need to see it on a daily basis. You don’t live with them anymore so they have doubts and worries that need your words and love on a daily basis. This is a crucial message to send your own brain because your brain is calling you a “promise breaker” at this point in time. So send your brain the message, “yes, true, but I am also Mr. or Mrs. Consistency and very sensitive to my children’s needs.

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